Saturday, 9 December 2017

Comparing isn't caring | BLOGMAS 2017 DAY 9

Helloo! Here we are at day 9 of Blogmas! Today I wanted to touch on my habit of comparison and how I'm hoping to change it!



Theodore Roosevelt once said 'comparison is the thief of joy'. The first time I saw this quote I sat there for a while pondering on what those words meant to me. I had never noticed I was doing it, but my whole life I had made comparisons of myself against others. I have become so used to putting myself down and being negative towards myself it had pretty much become a part of who I was. 

I know I'm not the only person who struggles with this. We see others online and even in real life who we assume are better than us in some way. Be it looks, careers, lifestyles or relationships. As much as we try and tell ourselves that what we see on the internet may not be that persons reality, there is still that niggling little voice in the back of our heads that tells us otherwise. We see someone on a nice holiday, and put ourselves down because we couldn't possible imagine going to such a luxury, exotic location. We see someone getting engaged or married, and wonder will we ever have a love so wonderful? 

After I had thought about that quote, I started to notice more and more the negative impact my comparing was having on my mental health. If someone had bigger boobs than me, I felt ugly. If someone had a successful job, I felt miserable. If I saw someone out with friends having a great time, I felt alone. I would even try and follow more positive influences online, to no avail. I would still put myself down and think to myself 'I will never be so inspirational or happy with who I am'.

But I've decided enough is enough! I can't carry on like this. I need to try and change my way of thinking to not be so sad all the time! Next year I really am going to focus on myself. Every day I'm going to make small changes that in the long run will reap massive results!

I was thinking of starting with daily affirmations or something like that! Starting the day telling myself or writing down something positive. I'm going to try and focus not solely on looks because I need to understand that there's more to life than how I look. If a negative thought pops into my head I will try my hardest to reason with my brain and come back with a positive argument! 'She's skinny, she's instantly more beautiful than me'. Will be fought with: 'I'm beautiful just the way I am'! 'Look at their new car, they're much more successful than me'. 'Cars to not equate to my happiness! Others like cars, I'm sure I'd prefer a holiday with that money'! 

If you struggle with your self image, I think it would be a great idea to try and make small changes yourself! Take time to think about where the problem lies, what you think most negatively about and how you can change your way of thinking! But of course, if it is something that you desperately cannot accept (for me I know I will NEVER be able to like my boobs the way they are), then by all means, change it! My mum has always said to me 'accept what you can't change, change what you can't accept'! I'm in no way saying I'm going to go out tomorrow and get a boob job! I'll start by loving myself how I am and in the future maybe change it if I decide to! 

Let's make 2018 the year we all blossom into beautiful, self loving flowers!!

I really hope you enjoyed reading this because I had a lot of fun writing it and thinking about being optimistic for the future! We can all do it!

Make sure to pop back tomorrow for day 10! Follow me on Twitter here!

See you tomorrow! :)

Laura
xo

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