Tuesday, 5 December 2017

How Depression can affect Christmas | BLOGMAS 2017 DAY 5

While Christmas is a generally happy time of year, there will be millions of people who will be struggling to get into the Christmas spirit. Today I wanted to share my thoughts on dealing with depression around this time of year.

Dealing with Depression day to day gets to be quite draining. When it comes to this time of year where everybody is feeling the excitement and magic of Christmas, it can be hard not to feel a bit guilty for not feeling the same. 

But it doesn't have to be like that. You deserve to feel the joy of Christmas! I know how overwhelming the dark cloud of depression can be and how caught up you can get in the sadness but it's not about being 100% happy, it's about taking small steps to be able to enjoy the season! 

There isn't a magical Christmas fairy who comes around in December and cures you with her fairy dust! It's perfectly okay and normal to feel sad, even if everyone else seems to be happy! Note the keyword 'seems' because I can assure you EVERYONE is worrying, stressed and anxious! Yes, for different reasons, but we're allowed to feel down no matter what it's about!

I know personally I get down about not being able to share my family's excitement. I beat myself up about not having the money to spoil my friends and family in the way they deserve, and I worry that what I have got people will not be good enough. I put myself down for not having a fully booked calendar of parties and dinners.  But I always have to remind myself that these things are unrealistic for me and what I see from others online and TV isn't always real. 

Being able to take a step back, calm down and think about what you can do to tackle the negative thoughts is important!

Don't overwhelm yourself or put yourself up for too many things that will cause you to spiral into sadness. Keep your calendar to as many social gatherings as you can manage, or keep it clear all together! You can go out any time of the year - don't put the pressure on yourself!

Make sure you take some 'me' time in order to recuperate and wind down from all the madness of Chrsitmas. Watch your favourite film, have a bubble bath or get your favourite festive snacks in!

Helping a little with the decorating will give you a sense of taking part and will hopefully give you a little boost! It doesn't have to involve hiking out into the woods to cut down a tree! Something as small as popping a few baubles on the tree exactly where you'd like them can help! I love putting some string lights around the end of my bed!

Try offering a hand on Christmas Day to again make you feel a part of the celebrations! Again, like the last point, I'm not telling you to cook a dinner for your 14 guests! I know for me setting up the table and taking out the dishes of food helps! Clearing up the torn apart wrapping paper, stirring the gravy or taking the plates out are a few suggestions!

But most importantly.. enjoy yourself!! Take it a day at a time and remind yourself that it's just another day! 

I hope these few tips helped and that you can take something from it! Let me know in the comments or on Twitter here if you have any other suggestions!

Thank you for reading! New blogmas post every day at 7pm (UK time)!!


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